http://dir.salon.com/topics/cary_tennis/?source=rss&aim=/topics/cary_tennis/ Since You Asked... en-us Copyright 2010 Salon.com. http://images.salon.com/src/rdf_salonlogo.gif http://dir.salon.com/topics/cary_tennis/?source=rss&aim=/topics/cary_tennis/ Sun, 08 Nov 2009 17:07:00 PST Cancer is killing my sex life Cary Tennis Sun, 08 Nov 2009 17:07:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/08/cancer/index.html?source=rss&aim=/mwt/col/tenn http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/08/cancer/index.html http://letters.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/08/cancer/view/?source=rss&aim=/mwt/col/tennMy partner says he's just not attracted to me "right now" <p><a href="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/_DbBS-o3GnTwKMTcAEU855qD9IU/0/da"><img src="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/_DbBS-o3GnTwKMTcAEU855qD9IU/0/di" border="0" ismap="true"></img></a><br/> <a href="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/_DbBS-o3GnTwKMTcAEU855qD9IU/1/da"><img src="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/_DbBS-o3GnTwKMTcAEU855qD9IU/1/di" border="0" ismap="true"></img></a></p><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/salon/tennis/~4/hN0zsv-HOCU" height="1" width="1"/> Proof: The Jerk-Weasel constant exists! Cary Tennis Thu, 05 Nov 2009 17:05:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/05/the_jerk_weasel_constant/index.html?source=rss&aim=/mwt/col/tenn http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/05/the_jerk_weasel_constant/index.html http://letters.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/05/the_jerk_weasel_constant/view/?source=rss&aim=/mwt/col/tennIs it just me, or is the world seriously not living up to its potential? <p><a href="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/wUYOogjr4_ynM7ILV8kKy-aKeMc/0/da"><img src="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/wUYOogjr4_ynM7ILV8kKy-aKeMc/0/di" border="0" ismap="true"></img></a><br/> <a href="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/wUYOogjr4_ynM7ILV8kKy-aKeMc/1/da"><img src="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/wUYOogjr4_ynM7ILV8kKy-aKeMc/1/di" border="0" ismap="true"></img></a></p><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/salon/tennis/~4/ituwwbEs9-g" height="1" width="1"/> The attorney next door holds views I detest Cary Tennis Wed, 04 Nov 2009 17:05:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/04/attorney_in_the_next_office/index.html?source=rss&aim=/mwt/col/tenn http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/04/attorney_in_the_next_office/index.html http://letters.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/04/attorney_in_the_next_office/view/?source=rss&aim=/mwt/col/tennHe denigrates gays and Muslims while I grit my teeth <p><a href="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/v6JVmunTap0NQANIZn9rdjzh_KE/0/da"><img src="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/v6JVmunTap0NQANIZn9rdjzh_KE/0/di" border="0" ismap="true"></img></a><br/> <a href="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/v6JVmunTap0NQANIZn9rdjzh_KE/1/da"><img src="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/v6JVmunTap0NQANIZn9rdjzh_KE/1/di" border="0" ismap="true"></img></a></p><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/salon/tennis/~4/Fq79eXY6geI" height="1" width="1"/> How can I detach from my mother? Cary Tennis Sun, 01 Nov 2009 16:27:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/01/detachment_from_mother/index.html?source=rss&aim=/mwt/col/tenn http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/01/detachment_from_mother/index.html http://letters.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/01/detachment_from_mother/view/?source=rss&aim=/mwt/col/tennIf I distance myself from her, won't I feel like a horrible person? <p><a href="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/CeuloEeVe63ycBuvB6G3dmvy_3M/0/da"><img src="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/CeuloEeVe63ycBuvB6G3dmvy_3M/0/di" border="0" ismap="true"></img></a><br/> <a href="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/CeuloEeVe63ycBuvB6G3dmvy_3M/1/da"><img src="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/CeuloEeVe63ycBuvB6G3dmvy_3M/1/di" border="0" ismap="true"></img></a></p><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/salon/tennis/~4/Qm6zfU7KJUA" height="1" width="1"/> How can I get myself into a routine? Cary Tennis Thu, 29 Oct 2009 17:27:00 PDT http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/29/routine/index.html?source=rss&aim=/mwt/col/tenn http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/29/routine/index.html http://letters.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/29/routine/view/?source=rss&aim=/mwt/col/tennIf I vacuum the house on the same day every week, will that give me a feeling of order? <p><a href="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/EFjzRztGqjHL_aO84zXpC_Se2rg/0/da"><img src="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/EFjzRztGqjHL_aO84zXpC_Se2rg/0/di" border="0" ismap="true"></img></a><br/> <a href="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/EFjzRztGqjHL_aO84zXpC_Se2rg/1/da"><img src="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/EFjzRztGqjHL_aO84zXpC_Se2rg/1/di" border="0" ismap="true"></img></a></p><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/salon/tennis/~4/QwgfqPrshmc" height="1" width="1"/> I can't get over my wife's rape -- 20 years ago Cary Tennis Wed, 28 Oct 2009 17:26:00 PDT http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/28/rape_in_the_past/index.html?source=rss&aim=/mwt/col/tenn http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/28/rape_in_the_past/index.html http://letters.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/28/rape_in_the_past/view/?source=rss&aim=/mwt/col/tennShe has accepted it but I cannot let it rest in the past <p><a href="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/l1SprFT2nYt8K1xmR7jL3iaievo/0/da"><img src="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/l1SprFT2nYt8K1xmR7jL3iaievo/0/di" border="0" ismap="true"></img></a><br/> <a href="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/l1SprFT2nYt8K1xmR7jL3iaievo/1/da"><img src="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/l1SprFT2nYt8K1xmR7jL3iaievo/1/di" border="0" ismap="true"></img></a></p><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/salon/tennis/~4/NwbeIiVwksY" height="1" width="1"/> I like a guy but he thinks we're just friends Cary Tennis Tue, 27 Oct 2009 17:26:00 PDT http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/27/los_angeles/index.html?source=rss&aim=/mwt/col/tenn http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/27/los_angeles/index.html http://letters.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/27/los_angeles/view/?source=rss&aim=/mwt/col/tennHow do I get over liking him so much? I know it can never work! <p><a href="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/Oh2JUrh0Icg-M5_zcaYxB38iUN8/0/da"><img src="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/Oh2JUrh0Icg-M5_zcaYxB38iUN8/0/di" border="0" ismap="true"></img></a><br/> <a href="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/Oh2JUrh0Icg-M5_zcaYxB38iUN8/1/da"><img src="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/Oh2JUrh0Icg-M5_zcaYxB38iUN8/1/di" border="0" ismap="true"></img></a></p><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/salon/tennis/~4/L627KZy1kao" height="1" width="1"/> My family of writers are all stuck in the past Cary Tennis Mon, 26 Oct 2009 17:27:00 PDT http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/26/family_writers/index.html?source=rss&aim=/mwt/col/tenn http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/26/family_writers/index.html http://letters.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/26/family_writers/view/?source=rss&aim=/mwt/col/tennMy relatives inscribe their unchangeable history on all of us -- who would like to be heard in the present! <p><a href="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/7IOgmqw3rqkIQfnU5YfkuwKhDmA/0/da"><img src="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/7IOgmqw3rqkIQfnU5YfkuwKhDmA/0/di" border="0" ismap="true"></img></a><br/> <a href="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/7IOgmqw3rqkIQfnU5YfkuwKhDmA/1/da"><img src="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/7IOgmqw3rqkIQfnU5YfkuwKhDmA/1/di" border="0" ismap="true"></img></a></p><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/salon/tennis/~4/JUL0_tj0NMI" height="1" width="1"/> I moved cross-country with Mr. Wrong Cary Tennis Sun, 25 Oct 2009 17:24:00 PDT http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/25/moved_across_country/index.html?source=rss&aim=/mwt/col/tenn http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/25/moved_across_country/index.html http://letters.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/25/moved_across_country/view/?source=rss&aim=/mwt/col/tennI stuck with him so our kid would have a dad, but I think it's time to head back home <p><a href="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/l0sJlhrTL3lanRYEZlMcLs79eG8/0/da"><img src="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/l0sJlhrTL3lanRYEZlMcLs79eG8/0/di" border="0" ismap="true"></img></a><br/> <a href="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/l0sJlhrTL3lanRYEZlMcLs79eG8/1/da"><img src="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/l0sJlhrTL3lanRYEZlMcLs79eG8/1/di" border="0" ismap="true"></img></a></p><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/salon/tennis/~4/ZgNkDXTuoeY" height="1" width="1"/> Am I a blog stalker? Cary Tennis Thu, 22 Oct 2009 17:18:00 PDT http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/22/blog_stalker/index.html?source=rss&aim=/mwt/col/tenn http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/22/blog_stalker/index.html http://letters.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/22/blog_stalker/view/?source=rss&aim=/mwt/col/tennI've been reading this family blog, but they don't know. I think they think it's private! <p><a href="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/SkUP3dhVgf3I-1lRiScBPgdhtNw/0/da"><img src="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/SkUP3dhVgf3I-1lRiScBPgdhtNw/0/di" border="0" ismap="true"></img></a><br/> <a href="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/SkUP3dhVgf3I-1lRiScBPgdhtNw/1/da"><img src="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/SkUP3dhVgf3I-1lRiScBPgdhtNw/1/di" border="0" ismap="true"></img></a></p><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/salon/tennis/~4/24zMhISGcwg" height="1" width="1"/> I'm way too detail-oriented! I notice everything! Cary Tennis Wed, 21 Oct 2009 17:33:00 PDT http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/21/too_detail_oriented/index.html?source=rss&aim=/mwt/col/tenn http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/21/too_detail_oriented/index.html http://letters.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/21/too_detail_oriented/view/?source=rss&aim=/mwt/col/tennI cannot turn off this propensity for seeing what others miss <p><a href="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/VeMWus19EKpC4YiHsfbajYJ2JG8/0/da"><img src="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/VeMWus19EKpC4YiHsfbajYJ2JG8/0/di" border="0" ismap="true"></img></a><br/> <a href="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/VeMWus19EKpC4YiHsfbajYJ2JG8/1/da"><img src="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/VeMWus19EKpC4YiHsfbajYJ2JG8/1/di" border="0" ismap="true"></img></a></p><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/salon/tennis/~4/-Fki4RsZqyU" height="1" width="1"/> I'm 20, brilliant and totally lost Cary Tennis Tue, 20 Oct 2009 17:21:00 PDT http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/20/20_and_brilliant/index.html?source=rss&aim=/mwt/col/tenn http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/20/20_and_brilliant/index.html http://letters.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/20/20_and_brilliant/view/?source=rss&aim=/mwt/col/tennI thought I knew what I wanted to do and now all I want to do is ... join the Navy or ... learn German! <p><a href="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/PjY9pduLQ4WPs826C1xx_UFzrPI/0/da"><img src="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/PjY9pduLQ4WPs826C1xx_UFzrPI/0/di" border="0" ismap="true"></img></a><br/> <a href="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/PjY9pduLQ4WPs826C1xx_UFzrPI/1/da"><img src="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/PjY9pduLQ4WPs826C1xx_UFzrPI/1/di" border="0" ismap="true"></img></a></p><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/salon/tennis/~4/A3nQmquT9H0" height="1" width="1"/> I'm sober and dating a drinker Cary Tennis Mon, 19 Oct 2009 17:25:00 PDT http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/19/dating_a_drinker/index.html?source=rss&aim=/mwt/col/tenn http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/19/dating_a_drinker/index.html http://letters.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/19/dating_a_drinker/view/?source=rss&aim=/mwt/col/tennShe was once in the program but says she's got no problem. Can that be true? <p><a href="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/L-9mBjOYuOPTjdV7P5AUtM-XAn8/0/da"><img src="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/L-9mBjOYuOPTjdV7P5AUtM-XAn8/0/di" border="0" ismap="true"></img></a><br/> <a href="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/L-9mBjOYuOPTjdV7P5AUtM-XAn8/1/da"><img src="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/L-9mBjOYuOPTjdV7P5AUtM-XAn8/1/di" border="0" ismap="true"></img></a></p><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/salon/tennis/~4/vijd1srJmr4" height="1" width="1"/> There's a six-lane traffic jam in my head! Cary Tennis Mon, 19 Oct 2009 00:03:00 PDT http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/19/traffic_jam/index.html?source=rss&aim=/mwt/col/tenn http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/19/traffic_jam/index.html http://letters.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/19/traffic_jam/view/?source=rss&aim=/mwt/col/tennMy thoughts run in circles! I'm all mixed up! <p><a href="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/PL2t6AzMhH_YhgU9d3Hzqzvk34o/0/da"><img src="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/PL2t6AzMhH_YhgU9d3Hzqzvk34o/0/di" border="0" ismap="true"></img></a><br/> <a href="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/PL2t6AzMhH_YhgU9d3Hzqzvk34o/1/da"><img src="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/PL2t6AzMhH_YhgU9d3Hzqzvk34o/1/di" border="0" ismap="true"></img></a></p><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/salon/tennis/~4/iyzQTwJao8Q" height="1" width="1"/> My boyfriend's an iPhone addict! Cary Tennis Fri, 16 Oct 2009 00:06:00 PDT http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/16/iphone_addict/index.html?source=rss&aim=/mwt/col/tenn http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/16/iphone_addict/index.html http://letters.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/16/iphone_addict/view/?source=rss&aim=/mwt/col/tennHe won't put down his toy, even at dinner <p><a href="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/u463iLpPrsaUMAMcPbbUKN_g0pw/0/da"><img src="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/u463iLpPrsaUMAMcPbbUKN_g0pw/0/di" border="0" ismap="true"></img></a><br/> <a href="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/u463iLpPrsaUMAMcPbbUKN_g0pw/1/da"><img src="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/u463iLpPrsaUMAMcPbbUKN_g0pw/1/di" border="0" ismap="true"></img></a></p><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/salon/tennis/~4/Dm7bJUv_-R4" height="1" width="1"/> Should I tell my girlfriend I'm a former abuser? Cary Tennis Mon, 12 Oct 2009 00:06:00 PDT http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/12/abuser/index.html?source=rss&aim=/mwt/col/tenn http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/12/abuser/index.html http://letters.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/12/abuser/view/?source=rss&aim=/mwt/col/tennI'm afraid she'll leave me if I reveal my past <p><a href="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/hsOOznvQyFXozbvoIgqmGxVqAnY/0/da"><img src="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/hsOOznvQyFXozbvoIgqmGxVqAnY/0/di" border="0" ismap="true"></img></a><br/> <a href="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/hsOOznvQyFXozbvoIgqmGxVqAnY/1/da"><img src="http://feedads.g.doubleclick.net/~a/hsOOznvQyFXozbvoIgqmGxVqAnY/1/di" border="0" ismap="true"></img></a></p><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/salon/tennis/~4/zeakBvOZ68E" height="1" width="1"/>